Lawyers
Posted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 10:41 amFamily lawyers are usually the beginning of the end for your family.
Their tricks include:
1. Making you feel safe, secure, powerful and protected when under them (this works especially well with women);
2. Ascertaining your character (ie. how well they can control you);
3. Quantifying your finances/assets (ie. How much money you have, which in turn can be theirs, and the longer the litigation, the more for them and the less for you and your family);
4. Complexing matters, prolonging litigation, introducing barristers and courts;
5. Polarising mum and dad, through fuelling the animosity and instilling fear. Resulting in diminished contact, communication, restraining orders and any hope of a peaceful, timely, amicable and inexpensive resolution.
The lack of communication between mum and dad disempowers them both, preventing the healing of inadequacies and hindering growth to maturity. It usually compounds the grief, guilt and hostility of both mum and dad, hence often making any form of short and long term civil relationship, at least for the sake of the children, non-existent.
Ideally, your trick is not to be vulnerable, keep in control, get as much knowledge and advice about your situation, your rights and entitlements as possible, be calm and respectful and keep communication open and alive with your partner(ex) and come to an agreement between yourselves. Use a friendly, trusted third party for negotiations if you have to, and make sure you pay or reward them with something at the end for their troubles as it's not easy mediating. After negotiations have been finalised between the two of you, a lawyer can be used to do the necessary legal paperwork, or if it's simple you can lodge it yourself.
Remember: If a separation is amicable, a friendship may still be possible with your ex in time to come. Not now perhaps, but in time to come, this may prove fruitful.
Q. What's worse than 1 family lawyer involved in your family breakdown?
A.Two family lawyers.
Their tricks include:
1. Making you feel safe, secure, powerful and protected when under them (this works especially well with women);
2. Ascertaining your character (ie. how well they can control you);
3. Quantifying your finances/assets (ie. How much money you have, which in turn can be theirs, and the longer the litigation, the more for them and the less for you and your family);
4. Complexing matters, prolonging litigation, introducing barristers and courts;
5. Polarising mum and dad, through fuelling the animosity and instilling fear. Resulting in diminished contact, communication, restraining orders and any hope of a peaceful, timely, amicable and inexpensive resolution.
The lack of communication between mum and dad disempowers them both, preventing the healing of inadequacies and hindering growth to maturity. It usually compounds the grief, guilt and hostility of both mum and dad, hence often making any form of short and long term civil relationship, at least for the sake of the children, non-existent.
Ideally, your trick is not to be vulnerable, keep in control, get as much knowledge and advice about your situation, your rights and entitlements as possible, be calm and respectful and keep communication open and alive with your partner(ex) and come to an agreement between yourselves. Use a friendly, trusted third party for negotiations if you have to, and make sure you pay or reward them with something at the end for their troubles as it's not easy mediating. After negotiations have been finalised between the two of you, a lawyer can be used to do the necessary legal paperwork, or if it's simple you can lodge it yourself.
Remember: If a separation is amicable, a friendship may still be possible with your ex in time to come. Not now perhaps, but in time to come, this may prove fruitful.
Q. What's worse than 1 family lawyer involved in your family breakdown?
A.Two family lawyers.
So much for the phrase " in the best interest of the children involved!" 