I am a father of two gorgeous little girls. As things and life happen, I recently had to go through the family courts. There I found a distinct bias, where the fathers right to be heard is purely nominal and an agenda of "kids-go-with-mothers" was pushed actively.

Rather than taking this quietly, I have decided to start a petition to the federal parliament (ministries and shadow ministries of justice) to get the family and federal circuit courts reviewed. I believe a lot of your members would be interested in this as well (I actually only found out about you today, but will be joining!).

The petition can be accessed at: https://www.communityrun.org/p/fathers-rights

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By:Paul Phillips from Lethehead Surrey , UkMy on September 1, 2013 @ 1:08 am
Hi there Iv also been fighting a biased bent sexist discrimante and inhumain law so called family law !!!!
I started in 2011 and I have one more biased & bent hearing in sep of this year.
The last time I saw my girls now aged 9 & 8 was July of 2012 was when this alinater and my first born child who is now 18 both made two false alligations against myself some 16 months into this sad biasd bent process called family law.
Relationship ends on 08/01/08 after some 23 yrs of being together and making only four children.
I saw all my kids in 2008 & 2009 untill I met my current partner in July of 2009 that was the turning point right there.
Then this narsastic alinating person started to close those normal loving bonds down.
Based on her own bitter feelings.
Ok you can meet someone now but I will destroy your bonds with your dear children at all costs to meet my narsastic personality !!!
Saw my girls around 4 times in 2010.
So started court in 2011 to get the normal contact that myself and my children should still have of course !!
However this alinating person has breathed some four contact orders and lied and lied and yep you got it lied again.
Iv had false alligations made against myself and this biased and bent judge says it must be true based on the fact that two people had said it.
I said so your saying if two people lie then it must be true !!
Seems fair I guess.
I said to him in one of many statements sent into court if you say these things are true then lets see how it does in a crimbo court !!!!
So here in still sit today childless !! Why is that !!!
Why is because so called mums can ????
And this process is very very biased, bent. Discrimnate. Unjust.
Sexist. And inhumain.
Should i have givern up ages ago !! Yer maybe !!
But when you've done nothing wrong apart from standing up for your loved ones and for fighting a biased process
To give up is just not an option for this and I'm every other fighting loving fathers who's only simple wish is to know to love the ones he also took part in making.
If I had walked away. Then in years to come when maybe my girls come to find me.
How could I have said well girls I did not fight for you.
I didn't care bla bla !!! But of course this father does care which is why I will never give up on them or the fight if that's what this dad has todo then that is what I will do.
I belive todo nothing is not an option and I belive we all need to carry on fighting an outdated biased sexist bent process until it changes to then really be in the intrest of any dear child
Don't worry children us fathers will fight for all the children that have been and are being ripped away from their loving dads
Yours Paul equal parent equal father equal human being !!!
 
By:Assaph Mehr from NSW, Australia on August 30, 2013 @ 10:30 am
This is my personal story.

I came to Australia 11 years ago. As I grew older (and maybe a bit wiser), I also became a father of two adorable little girls. Life here felt good and having kids was something I have wanted for a few years. I was also working hard in IT, but it was always clear to me what I consider more important and how I will want to reflect back on my life when I'm old and grey. (Hint: I doubt I would be sorry for not spending time at the office).

I spent a lot of time with my girls. Since the minute they were born, I was the one bathing, caring, cuddling, reading stories, changing nappies, waking up at night. I regularly took time off from work to care for them when they were sick. In fact, when my eldest was almost one year old, my ex-wife had to undergo surgery on her leg, and as recovery took several months I was the primary caregiver for my girl. That bond we formed then will never break.

Whenever I had job interviews I always told prospective employers that I would never place work ahead of my family. It sounds crazy - why on earth would you tell prospective employers that you will not be committed to their company beyond the grave? Well, because it's true for one. And because I don't want to work in an environment that I will be expected to make this choice. I have been lucky. The places and people I worked with were always understanding, and I rewarded the companies I worked for with my devotion to the role rather than jumping at opportunities for career progression.

Sadly things went a bit off. When my second girls was only two I ended up getting a divorce (because those things happen). But although I divorced my wife, I never divorced my two girls. We had a week-on week-off arrangement, and I saw them as much as I could. In the weeks that I didn't have them, I made up for lost time at work on the weeks that I did. I made sure neither my girls nor my work suffered.

Earlier this year things went even more awry. After 4 years, my ex-wife decided to try and get the girls away from me. And after 4 years of shared arrangements, after having spent time with my girls since they were born, after being just as much involved as (I would say even more than) their mother, we got to court.

And reality slapped me in the face. Women fight for workplace equality? Justice! Men fighting for parental equality? Don't give me that crap. Don't you know that children belong with the mothers? So they said they want to live with you? Can't be right, they don't know what's good for them. It seems like the family courts of Australia have not quite moved on with the times.

I now see my girls just every other weekend. It's hard, but at least I get to be the "fun dad" and concentrate on having the best time with them possible. I know our bond will last forever.

But I won't just accept it. So I started a petition to have the Family and Federal Circuit courts reviewed for bias. This isn't aimed at opening old wounds or violating anyone's privacy. This is just to protect the next "modern man" who thought that family is just as important as his career. Please take a moment to read the petition. If you agree that a review of social justice is appropriate, please also sign and share in other social media. And if you think it does not affect mothers, think again - the same government that thinks kids belong with mothers, also thinks mothers belong back at home, in the kitchen with the kids.

Thanks for listening.

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