A vitally important place to air your emotions, how you feel and what you think!
The F4J Have Your Say area is simply a place for everyone where you get the Freedom, Peace, Love and Respect to share what's going on for you.
There is no right or wrong about what you say or how you say it —
the main thing is you let it out!
So have your say, vent your spleen, say your peace, let your feelings, emotions and thoughts run free as opposed to bottling it up causing ill health in you and for others.
Chances are there is somebody relating to exactly what's happening or of concern to you. What you say may very well help others as well as yourself. Once we all realise we are not alone and we are all in this together in one form or another, as living men and women with fundamentally the same psychological and biological structure, a great sense of relief and peace can come from this knowing.
However, the only condition in this forum is we ask you not to identify family members by their true names. Not because of man made rules, fear or ignorance, but purely based on respect for yourself, your family and reasons of higher good, else you're free to let loose.
This Have Your Say section is an open forum and not censored as such giving you the freedom to let rip with whatever's on your mind.
So with all that out of the way.... Go straight to writing a comment now
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Child support, when does it stop - By:Rob from NSW, AU on March 22, 2020 @ 9:18 pm3
Child Support on disability pension - By:Brent from South Australia, Australia on March 21, 2020 @ 2:08 amI guess the constant nasty actions, and threats, of not allowing contact with my son; if I don't do what she wants or don't pay Child support got to me. Well I started giving her over 2.5 thousand dollars every year for his schooling and other incidental expenses of $40 per fortnight because I could not fight anymore.
Now my son is 15 and I understand the DHS system, especially family tax benefits A and B in which she receives.
I stopped paying her after another incident when she , out of the blue wanted more money. This time I said no! I also wanted to know where the FTB A & B payments go?
Anyway, since I said "no!" and my son is old enough to make up his own mind when he wants to stay with me, a great depressive fog has been lifted. By standing up I have taken my power back, with honors. Now she is screaming bloody murder wanting money and wont sit down for a mediated meeting so I can show her the records.
All I say now is "where has all the FTB money gone to"? I went through all the records, and with a school card fee remission my money covered all his schooling plus.
Anyway I'm just airing. The big test now is how can I, and my son, weather the storm of her threatening to take my son out of school while constantly in his ear about how bad his dad is for stopping voluntary payments.
This is the test. To get rid of my 'Stockholm Syndrome'.
Anyone else know if I'm right?
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Not fit for purpose - By:Tony from WA , Australia on March 10, 2020 @ 8:57 amKarma will come back on you and one day the kids will find out the truth.
What a joke and a bloody hypocrite. Get a job with the CSA, you are well qualified and being a bush pig you should fit in well with those assholes.
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Relationship Breakdown, suicide - By:Graeme Sudholz from NSW, Australia on March 6, 2020 @ 2:07 am1
FAMILY COURT OF AUSTRALIA - By:Alexandra from New South Wales, Australia on March 21, 2020 @ 2:08 amEvery bit counts.
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Be strong - By:Shane from WA, Australia on January 31, 2020 @ 2:42 amyes I know it' is all shit Mate.
Call me or text for a chat Mate.
I'm in WA too.
Shane
0419 926 521
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No access to kids - By:Tony from WA, australia on February 20, 2020 @ 4:52 amHow can it be fair for the ex wife to agree to not having child support and renege on that agreement that was signed in a solicitors and the state court, when she had been left a mortgage free house, all contents and a good car.
Then she talks to her inbreed mates and gets these corrupt bastards (CSA) to get even more money from the ex- husband.
Well the CSA does not recognise the Australian legal system and are a law only to themselves.
When i contacted them, they stated you earn money and we take it!
They do not care if the father see's the children and as such he has no leverage to force the mother to give access visits etc.
The whole system is not fit for purpose, the people in it are narcissistic men hating bastards who should be given some of their own treatment and see how they like it. The CSA should be shut down, it should stand for CSA --Child Separation Abuse as all the CSA does is fuck up the kids lives with the parent who has no access.
Australia should be embarrassed by this system compared to the rest of the world. The CSA are not interested in the children, only their toxic system they run, SHAME ON YOU AUSTRALIA for allowing this to happen.
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430. Canadian Family Law. - By:Eddie from British Columbia, Canada on January 17, 2020 @ 1:36 am888 click-signs already! Let's make it 1,000 Thanks, Alex
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Make Judges and Lawyers Accountable - By:Gopal Raj KUmar from Victoria, Australia on March 11, 2020 @ 12:14 amGo to http://chng.it/Ymv9PdJZ
Already two formal complaints have been lodged against sitting judges in the Supreme Court of Queensland and one against a judge of the Federal Court (Family division).
Against the Supreme Court judges one is by a layer the other by a litigant who a judge abused during a hearing.
The fish they say rots from the head. If we don't arrest it there and remain intimidated, we are going to be like sheep in the fire engulfing our nation.
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By:Name from nsw, Zog on February 11, 2020 @ 6:27 amThe csa maggots have all sorts of penalties they threaten the paying parent with, such " capacity to earn " ,back payment for a provisional amount that they think you've earned,etc etc.
But what penalties do they enforce on the receiving parent?
Do they force the receiving parent to do their tax return in return for payment?
Do they increase their provisional income on capacity to earn?
Do they carry out checks weather the receiving parent has other sources of income, such a working for cash or living above their means or claiming to be single, whilst living in a defacto relationship. Thus ripping off paying parent and centerlink? .
Do the look at bogus living arrangements such as living in seperation in a one bedroom unit for example.
The answer is nothing, they do none of that.
They just support and encourage parasitic lifestyles that do no good for themselfs or the people they sap off.
While the interrogate the honest parent who is forced to pay unrealistic amounts of money to someone who is no accountable to anyone. And then the fake news media dramatize domestic violence. Revolution dreaming...
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Change.Org Trending - By:Gopal Raj Kumar from Victoria, Australia on January 17, 2020 @ 1:38 amGo to http://chng.it/Ymv9PdJZ
Pass it on.
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Change.org - By:Gopal Raj Kumar from Victoria, Australia on February 3, 2020 @ 8:59 amSomeone need to start a change.org petition and I am willing to give it a start. But each and everyone one of you needs to put your shoulder to the wheel and push it along.
No government ought to feel safe by ignoring the plight of children deprived of their fathers (and mothers) by an incompetent family court and government.
These are "our courts" "our judges" and we need to control them.
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By:David Kallenbach from Queensland, Australia on March 11, 2020 @ 12:15 amAustralia's savings and its economy has suffered irrepairable damage because of it.
The judiciary are politically appointed and merit becomes a casualty in the family courts. It is the same in all our courts. The chief justice of the Supreme Court of Queensland is a case in point.
In Queensland they rolled a fine judge who was appointed as Chief Justice of the Supreme Court in a most unconstitutional way and put in a complete nutter in the current Chief Justice. She forms views, does not like non Europeans, men and women who view justice as an outcome. But thats what we get for a politically correct appointment.
Queensland requires a Royal Commission every decade. Lets have one soon but also one at the national level to rid the family court of its judges and better still make them accountable.
We also need to make lawyers more accountable. And for that the pretentions of their 'immunities' and self correcting self regulating peak professional bodies have to go. Government need to have real people judge the judges and lawyers.
May 2020 be the year men find their courage, their tomatoes and get to starting a petition online to end the family court and women's rights only madness. We ar all Australians created equal before God aren't we?
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Be strong - By:SG66 from WA, Australia on December 25, 2019 @ 10:43 pmCall me.Think of the kids.
041925352
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Evil Fuck'n bitch - By:Shane from WA, Australia on December 25, 2019 @ 10:43 pmDeceitful X wife and all the bull shit.( still got shit going on, she wont leave me alone and just see my kids)
Mate to be as up front as I can I told child support to fuck off and I will never ever give that deceitful thieving C--t a cent and I told them I know your recording the call, I know your account is at $40k and feel free to play it back to the b--ch.
Shane mate and anyone else call me for a chat or email me if you can't talk (I go through times when I can't talk either)
0419 926 521 or shanegodwin66@gmail.com
We are loosing more men a year (and it's not just about the men) than we did in the Vietnam war in 6 f--k'n years.
WTF if wrong with this hey??
Call, text opr emasil, I have lost to many people I know because of this fucked up system.
Happy to chat, court tomorrow morning, wish me luck..
The X just accused me of sexually abusing the kids.
4 months she will keep them from getting together.(long story she was investigated April before last for belting the shit out of my 5 year old Daughter)
What a complete bottom of the barrel shit to do.
Mate's we need to try to fix this shit, not for us because it's too late for us but for our children.
So sorry guy's however I'm really pissed this time.
Happy to chat if you want to call.
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Can't believe it!! - By:SG66 from WA, Australia on February 3, 2020 @ 9:11 amNow she has made a report to the powers that be that I have been sexually abusing my kids.
Just when I thought there was nothing more she could do to me.
My poor son text me on his phone and asked why I didn't pick them up on Friday, he was told nothing of course..He is absolutely spewing on how and why his Mother would do this.
My poor kids, it's so not fair.
Has anyone got some advice or something?
I have spoken to the investigating officer on Friday but he wouldn't tell me anything.
call me or text on 0419 926 521
Shane
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420. Be Strong - By:SG66 from WA, Australia on February 3, 2020 @ 9:11 amIt's hard enough for them as it is.
Think of them ,it keeps me going.
call me for a chat, anyone.
I'm here to help and listen.
Shane
0419926521
It's time for a revolution, isn't it?"??????
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Tit 4 Tat - By:Victoria from Canberra, Australia on March 11, 2020 @ 2:10 amUnfortunately I had a drug problem a couple of years ago and "tough love" approach was put in place to encourage me to become sober. It worked. Then, my child's father whom of which I asked to be the main carer of our child took the opportunity to slander me, take FVO out on me, but then ensured that people believed I was a danger to myself and others, my family disowned me, my contact with them is minimal, I have lost friends whom I had been friends with for 20years, I had been robbed, lied about, used as a scape goat, basically gang-stalked and although my behaviour wasn't the most appropriate, it did provide "proof" for him to claim all his lies about me.
He also claimed that I was a prostitute and thief, he contacted my new employer and told them these lies and exaggeration of twisted truth and when I had finally thought there was some relief he now has our child brain washed and forced to say certain types words to put me into a head spin. He refuses to acknowledge that I am her mother, claims that I haven't been a mother her entire life, he would agree to a visit and then cancel and tell others that I never see her, which in part is truth but not by my choice! I have gone to police to seek assistance as he is bound by the same terms of the FVO and is emotionally controlling me, telling me this will never end, he wants me permanently out of his and her life and will make sure he does everything possible to achieve this goal, I have it all in text, yet local police appear to be disinterested and have claimed it's difficult to charge someone who has micro reversed a family violence order?
He has full custody of our child, and I don't want our child to not have him in her life but where do I get to seek help and how? After 10 years I finally had a mental breakdown and after all the years he fucked up he is under the impression and ensuring others are too, that I am the worst and most dangerous person around?
He constantly tells me to kill myself and his antics to make sure that I am isolated makes me want to.
I have written on here to ask for information on getting actual support that will put my childs right first and allow her to have her mother in her life? Please help!
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It is completely anonymous, multiple choice and will take approx 2 minute to complete. Make you opinion count!
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Ex bought a house, now wants me to pay - By:Dan from QLD, Australia on February 3, 2020 @ 9:21 am4
Shooting to Speak - By:David Kallenbach from queensland, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 6:09 amNot many can identify or name two of the victims. Everyone it seems knows a “strong woman” on their side. She is playing politics.
Arden won't mention the "killer" by name. She wants him to be blotted out of history. That's where the problem lies. We all know him, and social media searches for his name have grown larger than the hits from people watching the shooting on YouTube. She threatens Facebook in a PR stunt. She became PM of New Zealand courtesy of Facebook and other social media.
The shooter like many of those from Columbine and before to Christchurch were raised by single mothers or a dominant mother and imbued with a hatred for men. Raising people without a voice according to many of the most celebrated psychiatrists of our time including Thomas Szaz, will likely force them to find an alternative means more effective and sensational to speak with.
The shooter in Christchurch simply found a ‘barrel of fish’ in the Christchurch mosque. Feminists, bleeding hearts, pro immigration, the unions and the labour party placed them on a pedestal in. At the same time they ignored the plight of the most marginalized in our midst, the white male. It is he that others have bled resources from. Our governments using them as human shields did it without the people's consent.
Australia's courts, its family courts in particular, rely on feminist ideology and theories rather than on the law. Men mainly white men suffer. the most marginalized people in Australia today are young and middle aged white men.
Language control (politically correct enshrined in legislation) has now become a tool of oppression. It is easier for a refugee or migrant of colour (Chinese included) to obtain a job along with women (unqualified) than it is for a white male to these days. But you are not allowed to say so lest you be considered an extremist, misogynist, sexist, racist or a white extremist.
When you suppress the voices of men (or anyone else) for too long, they will find a more radical and offensive means to be heard by. Often the barrel of an automatic assault rifle.
As the Palestinian hijacker of a BOAC VC10 said in 1972 before blowing it up in the Jordanian desert, “there are no innocent bystanders in this war”.
Stand up, be heard, be ridiculed for a short time but let your MP know he won't be getting your vote. Let the Union movements know that you are withdrawing your membership. Spread this around.
Christchurch is not the last. If we allow government's to continue and to rule without true consensus, there will be more Christchurchs and no amount of PR will be able to stop its effects.
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csa rally - By:Andrew Chalmers from Queensland, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 6:09 am3
We've been dumped on again. - By:Peter Butler from NSW, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 6:09 amThe 'superdad protests', although heavily critcised, seemed to stop the erosion of our rights.
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Overseas. You won't regret it. - By:Derek from Boston, Formerly oz on February 3, 2020 @ 9:23 amWhen court screws you over
When you've given up hope
When she's a money grabber but stops you seeing your kids
When you have a decent job...
Use your work experience, embellish a bit if you have to- have a good work mate to have your back and...
MOVE OVERSEAS
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Reduce work hours to stay-at-home new ba - By:James from Vic, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 6:10 am5
Family court - By:brent from Auckland, New Zealand on December 26, 2019 @ 6:10 amNever ever, ever give up. Never ever ever use a lawyer. you have a brain use it and buy books on the family court system, here or in Australia. Your biggest lifetime regret and sole draining prophecy will be that you gave in. Good luck People.
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410. Family court - By:brent from Auckland, New Zealand on December 26, 2019 @ 6:10 am4
The CSA (Criminal Services Association) - By:Andrew from nsw, Aust on February 3, 2020 @ 9:25 amI refused to pay Child support and did not lodge a tax refund for 15 years...... Well, after I walked out of the Court House with 14,000.00 worth of Fines up my Clakker, Thanks to the ATO, I now have a combined total of say 40k.... You may say, How is it working for you Tom....???? When the Justice System finally catches up with a Royal Commission into the CSA, finds its Underhanded methods a miss carriage (more like a Back Yard Abortion) of Justice, Im going to Use all the resources at my disposal to sue the ass off the Commonwealth.... And you may join me when that time comes, because the two parties involved in an agreement were debunked by the F...B.... CSA.
I feel much better now thats off my chest..
P.S... Please R.I.P all the poor bastards who just couldn't take it anymore.
Ill drink to them when the day comes...Cheers, Tom.
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Loosing my kids to lies, games, and titl - By:Leanna courtney from Sc, Us on December 26, 2019 @ 6:10 amHi, my names is Leanna Courtney.
We where walked out on by my husband in dec of 2017.
6-10 before Christmas. And the system has failed to protect my kids from all this pain and instead have made it worst . My ex is a officer of Houston county GA, I have reached out to his captain, and major with little feedback or even acknowledging that one of their own officers of the law can’t even honor the family court orders they have put in place. Our children are 5,3,1 . I have three kids, Jonathon Courtney ( my ex) use to have three kids too until he left us and told my oldest ( from a previous relationship but was raised knowing only Jonathan from 2mon-5) he would no longer be her dad and will not be getting her anymore . He took the youngest two from me in June. I have been fighting and fighting to bring my kids home. I feel ignored, nobody is listening . I’ve reached out to Greenville county, Pickens county, Houston county, Clark county, as soon as they here he’s a cop it doesn’t matter the facts or my children’s feelings! My kids have grown up together and all because this man wants to walk out to get his life together with a not so nice past record of treatment to our family. Nobody will listen. I didn’t have the money for a lawyer in the beginning, he hired attorney Brian Johnson who is the most corrupt, evil man. The true definition of corruption in our system we hear about . My family is a case number to the system, they have been dragging out this nightmare for way to long. My husband is a white police officer who is hiding behind is badge to keep our kids from eachother and myself . I am biracial, our kids are mixed.... I can’t help but wonder what roll that has to play when looking at him and I for parenting . How can a system come in and only know one side and take the kids away from the only parent who HAS NEVER WALKED OUT THAT DOOR!!!
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Reply to Suicide and CSA - By:Katrina from New South Wales, Australia on February 3, 2020 @ 9:26 amAt the end of the Day, parent AND the court system are forgetting about the children and the parent to whom is incapable of holding a diplomatic view and being reasonable for what would be beneficial to the child, they are too focused on the whole "eye for an eye" and trash talking which again I agree, Parent alienation is a form of child abuse! I only hope the parent to whom is abusing the court system isnt doing so they are able to abuse the child without being found out!
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Suicide and CSA - By:Very sneaky from SA, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 6:10 amSuicide is rapidly increasing over the years, the perfect way for population control blaming the citizens themselves...
The family courts reward up to 65-80% of assets to women during separation,
DVO’s are carelessly rubber stamped by Magistrates without any sort of evidence now for financial and custodial leverage in the family courts. These Magistrates are supporting parental alienation which is a form of child abuse.
Fathers are stripped of their children; typically the Parental alienation child abuse is used.
The Child Support Agency nurtures the child abuse by rewarding mothers 100% money for 100% custody…
This drives Fathers into great debt , stripped of their children then hounded by CSA for more money.
It is a really sad system that’s pushing Fathers into a corner, I can easily see why people want out…
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CSA Understanding - By:Johnny from nsw, australia on December 26, 2019 @ 6:10 amhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X0XQHDWnzHc
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CS threshold - By:Lee from Victoria, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 6:10 amI am a mother of 3 children, 2 who my ex husband claims child support from me. He is starting to lower his work hours to be able to claim more child support, lousy but obviously he has found a loop hole that benefits him as the payee. I understand I have no rights other than to lower my income by decreasing my work hours which I really do not want to do. I have the kids 50% of the time and feel I am being financially assaulted. What is the CSA payment threshold surely they can’t just keep taking more and more of my income?
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I beat csa.. I think?? - By:Nathan from Vic, Oz on December 26, 2019 @ 6:10 amNow I'm in another state and it seems she doesn't even give a shit that she's never heard from me again anyway. I heard she's moved on with a new man and hopes I die so they can play family. So much for all the "what's best for our child" crap she gave me. So many lies she told about me to court.
After I moved and changed jobs CSA never got in touch again. I wanna get enough experience in my job here now so I can get a job overseas then I never have to worry about her or getting a random call from CSA again.
I think I've won against csa tho
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Penalised by other parent earning more - By:John from WA, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 6:10 amThe answer should be in your updated payment notice. If you are receiving $12,800 return on investment then at 8% you would have approximately $160,000 invested. I assume this is why you receive no benefits. Because your income is less than the Parenting Payment Single (PPS) amount of $19,568 and you are not on benefits then CSA assume you have other income that they do not know about. They may also know of your investment and expect you to adjust your finances so that you can access this money. In this situation they have apply the Fixed Annual Rate of Income to your assessment which is $1,416 annually ($118 monthly). This has nothing to do with how much your Ex is making. If you want to go back to the minimum rate of $35 a month (now $35.58) then increase your income to just above the PPS amount.
The answers are on the CSA Guides web site : http://guides.dss.gov.au/child-support-guide/2/4/2. If you are not working then you have plenty of time to study this information and apply it to your situation. If you do not then CSA is quite happy to send you broke.
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Abuse of family court against fathers - By:brent from Auckland, New Zealand on December 26, 2019 @ 6:10 am2
400. Penalised by other parent earning more - By:Rick from SA, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 6:10 am7
CSA robbers - By:Marcus B from sa, Oz on December 26, 2019 @ 6:10 amId be requesting proof and challenging everything. Only ever ask questions and make them perform the acts that bind them. Even then that's not enough unless they're in court and on the record. Otherwise they lie outa their arse! Don't tell them anything or ever talk to them on the phone unless you know how to handle yourself. In writing is best. All these agencies see us as enemies so treat them the same. This is war, never forget it.
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Child support, when does it stop - By:Rob from NSW, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 6:10 am4
Brandon - By:Rudolph from Queensland, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 6:10 amIt was all about her. Mine was off with another woman. Go figure
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Brandon - By:Bill from SA, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 6:10 am3
Worried and Apprehensive - By:Brandon Douglas from Victoria, Australia on February 3, 2020 @ 10:02 amMy ex and I separated a year ago. She stayed in the same house for another 2 months before moving out. In that time she contributed nothing in the way of food, comforting our kids during the situation etc. As well as abandoned our 3 kids (all under 14) with me while she rarely got home before midnight, sometimes not coming back at all. When she did leave she could have seen our kids every fortnight on the weekends but didn't want to see them for nearly another 2 months even then it was only for a day hear or there. She saw them on Boxing Day then not a word for nearly a month. Then she wanted to see them every fortnight on the weekend. Now she is adamant that she wants 50/50 shared custody. I have the kids in a great routine and are finally happy again (have been for 8 months). Our kids wouldn't mind spending overnight at her house, but don't want to live with her. I'm very worried that if she does get what she wants that our kids will be put through hell again, just to satisfy her 'wants'. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
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Abuse of family court against fathers - By:brent matches from auckland , New zealand on February 3, 2020 @ 10:02 am6
Canadian 'Justice'. - By:Edward from B.C., Canada on December 26, 2019 @ 6:10 amThe item is quite lengthy but everything is true, and, I should add, this case has been brought to the attention of both the Canadian Prime Minister and the Canadian Minister of Justice, both of whom have ignored it, hoping, I would assume, that they would prefer that it 'just go away'.
https://drive.google.com/open?id=1HvTP8osB_KQwUsBjCKH42pLv_NM5R_4C
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Lawyers. - By:Brian from British Columbia, Canada on December 26, 2019 @ 6:11 amYou have a gun with only two bullets. What should you do?
Shoot the lawyer ..... twice.
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How much history do we need? - By:Helen D from WA, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 6:11 am11
390. Hey :Katrina Gloster - By:SG 66 from Western Australia, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 6:11 amThis bias system of lawyers and supervision services is a cash cow for the blood suckers that live on everyone's dis pare,.
What a f'n joke the whole thing.
How many of us have had the most despicable things said about us and everyone believed it??
No wonder 7 men a day were popping themselves off in 2015 HEY??
The road toll is??
we dont matter, just rememberthat.
Be strong and don't do anything f'n stupid that your kids will be fuck up for ever with.
Remember they still love you without any conditions.
Be strong and FUCK them! The one's that want to hurt you.
I'm here 0419926521
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Discrimination - By:Katrina Gloster from ACT, Australia on December 26, 2019 @ 6:11 amNot only am I suffering from alienation from my daughters father but he has such massive support that im suffering from bullying based on lies! I did almost commit suicide twice, my daughter is not only sad it breaks me but he cant see or feel how broken she is.
Ii came from a broken home, I hated every minute that I had to hear or pick one side, and the one thing I didn't want my daughter to suffer from, she now is!
My best friend, he suffered from this, inface so many men have I want to help stop the hurt, not only from the parent who is being excluded but more importantly the CHILD/CHILDREN
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THERE ARE MANY WAYS TO SKIN A CAT - By:Give me a call from NSW , AUSTRALIA on February 5, 2018 @ 1:16 am