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Who wants to be dictated to by the State on how you support your children what, how and when?
Whilst many views float around arguing for and against child support, most decent fathers and parents would argue the issue is not whether or not they wish to support their children, but rather the often unfair conditions imposed upon them.
Simply, it's an attack on the nature of a father's freedom and how he best wishes to raise and support his children in the many different ways a responsible father can, which are often more effective and benefical to a child than any 'slap-bang' instrument of government and statism can ever be.
For a father going through separation/divorce, experiencing the loss of family and children, horrendous false allegations, litigation, uncertainty of where your children are and how they are doing, often causes ill health, work and life instability in so many ways. Also, the effects from not having a fully functioning and emotionally present Dad in a child's life can be equally, if not more devestating as their development can be hindered considerably.
Then if that isn't bad enough, along comes an assessment from the Child Support Agency (CSA) for an outlandish sum of money based on your capacity to work at the highest rate when you were fit and able and on fire, which is possibly a stark contrast to where your financial position is today, or will be in the future if you are unable to recover from the upheaval of a traumatic separation that's often compared to a fate worse than death.
From 2006 CSA powers in Australia have increased to not only garnish your wages, but directly withdraw from bank accounts any amount they deem appropriate, siezing assets of any sort to pay the often highly questionable and unjust debts. As Fathers are assaulted with such draconian measures, one can only feel a sense of dictatorship giving rise to a totalitarian society not a free Australia causing fathers to unite and fight for their rights and freedom.
As there are many issues surrounding child support and the effects upon fathers, children and families,
the system allows the wife to take your kids and your money and reward them for it.
The system is so screwed and they wonder why Fathers lose the plot kill them selves or others, i know if it wearn't for my now new wife i wouldn't be on this planet.
if you are going to lawyers and she is taking you for everything you are best to just give it to her you will fight and fight and pay your lawyer tens of thousands of dollars only to lose it all anyway don't get a lawyer they are all just in it for money.
i am over my situation and its been over 3 years.
id like to say it gets better and eventually you'll move on but that aint the truth you will never recover from this and you will miss out on your kids growing up and be financially ruled by CSA, unless you are one of the lucky few that have an ex that is reasonable and you can keep CSA out and work it out between you.
Yes you should pay to help raise your kids but it should be dictated to you how to do that.
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I have been completely alienated from my child after a custody battle that left me with absolutely no faith in the broken system. When one parent continuously puts there child in dangerous and unhealthy situations and fails to meet even the basic care requirements for their child and alienates the other parent completely. CSA and the courts don't care so long as the maternal mother retains custody.
We men are victims only due to the fact we do not give birth to the child. The fact that child support has a blanket approach to child support and more recently more power to violate our right to support our children is outrageous.
I hope by writing here I can at least add a small amount of help to make things fairer and stop PAS and using kids as pawns for ill gotten gain
LOL, shoe on the other foot. She immediately said she has a number of AVO' s against certain individuals which I took as a threat.
Contact number is (07) 3551 5771.
In may 2016 I had an operation, the results were not good, July I had a second operation still mending but looking promising. The company I worked for restructured in late June 2016 and I took advantage of Redundancy as I was not going to be able to return to work or the same type of work. My Wife has a well paid job so we were able to manage financially. Tight but we get by. I paid maintenance as long as my redundancy lasted.
However even though I have to date paid my maintenance to my ex wife on time every time the CSA want more.
As I don't work I have NO income, I have not signed on at Centre Link as me and my wife joint income makes us ineligible. Yet the CSA want maintenance, when I ask where from they suggest the Wife pays it. This goes down like a lead ballon.
I can either ignore the payment which to be fair are very unjust and go into debt or seperate from my wife become single sign on at Centre Link and screw the system.
We used to have my daughter ever other weekend and half the school holidays until she turned 13, the increase in maintenance caused issues and when looked in to my wife released that, yes we get a reduction in maintenance for every other weekend but half school holidays nothing. My wife sees this as double dipping by my ex wife. We look after her half the school holidays and pay the ex wife for the pleasure on top of the costs at home. Once realised this stopped my wife will no longer have Rose on school holiday. I feel stuck in the middle as is my daughter The CSA are to blame for this. I can see my wife position its hard to argue with, if I do it causes problems.
The CSA are not looking after he child's best interests, they are minimising the payments centre link have to make in my opinion.
Im considering taking legal again against centre link but fighting the system even for a just cause looks very daunting.
Sorry for the rant.
I'm one of them dad that I say yes for all what
The want to take from me.
Today I received latter from her lower asking
To show all my asset pool so the can take it from me
I don't know what to do
The system is bullshit
My ex and i have 2 boys 13 and 10. We seperated when my youngest was 6 months old. I get my boys every fortnight on a weekend. Id never get them during the week due to "it" knowing the system too well. I dont want to go down the whole court thing because of the parental alienation she uses. Im an honest man who works hard and pays what i am told by cs to pay every week without fail. My gripe is this. Every year my cs goes up. Im not on a lot of money but need to work extra overtime to compensate for the extra i have to pay. Next year comes along and bam, up goes my cs and so on and so on. Im really starting to struggle. Im remarried with a 3yr old daughter and am seeing my wife and daughter less and less. I earnt an extra $3k this year and have to pay an extra $1.2k and when you think of the tax i pay on the extra $3k i earnt it doesnt leave much of the extra hours i had to work to pay cs and tax. The kick in the guts is "it" earnt an extra $11k this year and when the did a provisional assessment on her wage was the $11k less i had to pay 623 a month then did one on her actual ( 11k more ) was 620 amonth. I got a reduction of a massive $0.81 a week on the $11 fucking grand extra she earnt from last year. Ill continue to pay what i have to everu year, working longer not seeing my family to make ends meat whe this stupind system gives ut to her and the government take the rest in tax. God i love my life....
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Hello to all
I have been unemployed for the last 2 years and have paid monthly support payments through CSA out of my termination payment and savings every month. I did not inform CSA that I was still unemployed after july 2016 (apparently every 12 months I am meant to do that) so decided to bill me based on my termination pay from 2015, which put me in debt by about 12k. I just completed my 2015/16 tax which was my termination payout, and they have billed me another 12k from my termination package. So they have essentially double dipped. For the only income I received in 2015/16 was a one of termination payment. So I have been incorrectly assessed as I have not been working, I did tell then in 2015 I was Terminated and would be receiving a Termination payment. Just asking is the legit and is there anything I can do. They say too bad too sad.
Hi Doc, I took CSA through the SSAT system in 2013 and won. They were demanding and taking more than required (way less than your deal ) but still these pricks needed to be put in their place and stopped from doing what they did to you and me.
Well worth the exercise mate.
@Gary, request a copy of any agreement/contract that gives the CSA, ATO, any agency or any body/person any lawful right to any value from your labour without your consent. Don't argue or refuse, just ask Qs and have them produce proofs. Do discovery of all documents. You are the KING and they are but servants, albeit they would have you think otherwise. "
Hi Brian, where do i start to get such documents?? Cheers
CSA's latest stunt to me was to intercept nearly half my tax return knowing full well that she hasn't lodged her return therefore they use her last estimate of $20,000 (when in fact she earns over $40,000 and when the file is updated, they'll realise that I've overpaid.... and they'll just KEEP the money in credit.
I have written them (CSAholes) a nice letter of complaint so will be interesting to see what they say!
I divorced that x crement 7 years ago. She took me for everything, bankrupted me, and still plays every game you can imagine to make everything as difficult as possible. I got screwed over in court with the crappiest court orders you've ever seen, prob like most of us here.
What I would like to see happen is a major overhaul of the CSA system in Australia and give us real dads the rights to our children and the rights of fairness to change the CSA man-hating - womens-rigged bias to the whole system !!!
Anyone know how this could be done???
If only there was a real form of" good opposition " out there somewhere...
Many hurt people come here ,me included. Hurt by ex but more importantly the system.
Fight the system not each other.
The system helps no one it only allows funding people to hate each other through inequality, in a time of equality?.
Its all about awareness, child support is a fake bonus given to someone who hates or is at a misguided/heighten emotional state of mind(inflamed by family law solicitors psychological manipulators ), given as a right. When both parents had equal responsibility before.
This so called child support helps no one ,it creates more animosity, at an already difficult time. Fathers begging for access to their children are met with one sided laws, which lead them to a state of rage ,eg domestic violence.
On the other hand you have the ugly side which no democracy abiding media outlet will touch -SUICIDE.
28 men commit suicide each week as a result of helplessness, caused by inhuman family flaw outcomes/laws.
You may think you have won , but what? At what cost? Someone's life or a few dollars and misery , without any care for the father of the kids you call your own.
What a mess , stay strong people, fight the system not each other.
Revolution dreaming. ..
Does anyone know the form and where to get it to object to CSA ot ATO to take your tax return.
Do everyone a favor!!!
Looking for a little advice and support here. My partner has two children to an ex wife, who he has 50/50 custody of. We both happily support the children and have continually paid child support. Now she is with another man and had a baby and made the decision not to work, which in turn increases the child support amount. I generally wouldn't expect the new partner to support the children fully however she has chosen to stop working, their choice not ours, I should also mention that said partner earns over double our combined income. When the children come to our house they are full of stories about new couches, cars, tvs, kitchen aids, how the new partner pays for them to do this, that and all sorts, they also have horses and plan on buying my partners daughter a horse. Meanwhile we are counting our pennies and many weekends are unable to do much with the children due to lack of funds. My partner frets that this is going to effect how the children see life with him. It just seems highly unfair that we are having to fork out to supply them with extra money to buy such lavish items when we are literally living week to week plus they both have even amounts of custody!!
I have kept my mouth shut and tried to rationalize it out however she is now going through the CSA to get more money. Please tell me that there is somewhere we can go for help on this matter or at least that someone agrees that this is not right. How are we supposed to get ahead and plan for the kids future when we can't even save a cent..
This man loves his children more than anything in this life as i'm sure you all know and it kills me to see him worrying like this about things he doesn't need to.
(I should also mention we generally have a good relationship with the mother and other than this i do not have much bad to say about her, we actually get along, so please don't feel this is me bagging on my partners ex)
Thanks for reading if you got this far. I appreciate and understand all honest opinions.
He is obviously devastated but he realises he cant force her to speak to him/see him.My question is should he still be paying child support now that she has turned 18 and has made the decision to have no contact with him?
Do what you can to get CSA out of the picture, via a private agreement witnessed and written by solicitors. Get as fair agreement as you can formulate for your situation, even if it means waiting for a while to let things cool down a bit. I agreed to what was kind of equal to CSA payments at the time, but I knew if I could get CSA out of the picture I could live long enough to raise and be there for my son.
CSA and their formulas are evil and completely lack understanding of real world situations, they will destroy you, completely and without any care given! You should know this by now. Much like courts they are called upon at the end of the line, and should only be a last resort. Unfortunately they are also used as a milking tool, just like free legal aid for women who refuse to work, and are the first port of call once mothers know they have their business model established of given birth and set up income via the father.
I now have shared care 50/50 of our son after the mother abducted and abused him before I could put a stop to it via court and educating myself. She has BPD, need I say more. I educated myself as much as an engineer could in family law, and with our last meeting agreed to a private agreement which mostly cuts CSA out of the picture. Don't worry they still assess me and send out assessment letters for me to pay, even though our son spends 4-5 days a week with me and I am now bankrupt and earn well under what she does, (around the tax free threshold).
I could go on, but I must say also, don't be scared of bankruptcy, best thing that ever happened to me. There are higher values in life than finances. MGTOW is one.
I'm looking for help, I have always paid my child support for the last 13 years and there has never been any complaints from the ex until now. CSA put it up by $70 per week this year which I think is disgusting and she agreed to a $40 increase, I have been paying it straight to her since I started, here's the catch, I didn't agree to change weekends for her as I have done in the past and she got the shits on and went to CSA saying I'm not paying her correctly now they collect for her the full amount and I had to back pay for 3 months(btw that is all they can go back for) She has worked casually for 12 or so years and still does to this day but now my son is in high school he catches the bus home every day and she still leaves work at 2pm to go the gym. I was talked out of doing a change of assessment form using section 8a on the bases that she doesn't meet the criteria for not earning to her full capcity because her wage has increase by $400-500 per year which is bullshit, its just cpi really. I was threatened that they would go through all my income but I have nothing to hide , the taxation departments knows it all. I work 60hrs plus a week to support my family, new wife of 10 years 2 other kids to her including my son and now will have to work more to cover the increase and we all know then I'll earn more and next year she will get more!! its a shitty mostly mother supportive life style supportive bullshit of a system, I'm happy to pay but I'm not here to cover all his costs while he is with my ex.
Where to now?
I have 3 children who live in Austalia and I live in Thailand with my new partner, I left Australia as the CSA put a DPO on me due to arrears of 20K. I had to pay this for it to be lifted and have since left Australia. As we all know the CSA is a joke and does not listen. I have not worked for 2 years and not lived abroad for this whole duration, now my arrears is 65K
Here is the part I need advice on. I have a chance of a job abroad but the employer needs me to live in Australia. I would love to do this as I will have a salary again. Does anyone know or think if I approached the CSA and told them I have a chance of a job abroad but I have to live in Australia and I would be willing to pay 1K each month more than my already in place 1K payment they would accept this? and write a letter guaranteeing no DPO will be put on me. As other than this they will never be paid.
My ex and I pay his ex $450 per WEEK for their 2 children that's fine I believe you have them you pay but how the hell do they come up with these figures... that is a bloody mortgage repayment.
She doesn't let us have them over in Perth (she lived in Melbourne where his family was and we would fly between states at our expense) she moved to Nsw making it impossible for us to see them. We've just spent over 15k with lawyers just to sell their old house. She wont allow them to come to our wedding in September.
She didn't go by court orders from the house so going back to court will be lost money she wont put them on a plane and we sure as shit don't have thousands of dollars to go back to court again anyway.
How is this system even legal. How can she not work and get paid like she is. We struggle some months with money and I have had to go back to work already after having my baby (10mth old to my partner and 10y old from previous) just so we can still live....
When will things change and assessments be based on a better percentage that reflects today's cost of living for the paying parent firest :(
Anyway, we all have our stories... does anyone know please if the actual interest money payable for late Child Support payments ends up finally in your ex's bank account or is it just a penalty / interest payment that goes to the pockets of the Australian government? If its the latter I'll go and have a celebratory drink! So please let me know? Again - hang in there! And remember YOU, your kids and their relationship with you are the most important thing. Good luck :-) Dave
Just wanted a quick vent on how terrible child support is. My hubby has two kids to an ex. All seemed to be going well for the first few years, we had 50/50 care but still sent her $200 a fortnight to help care for them.
Then she went away for 6 months and we had 100% care of the kids. She contact child support right before she left and gave them the wrong address and phone number for my hubby so were had no idea she had even spoken to child support until 3 days before they were going to start deducting for my hubby salary!!!
We have had 100% care of them for 6 months, but as we didn't contact child support, only she did we OWE HER $3,500!!! We disputed, but the people on the phone couldn't even comprehend that we had had full care of the children, they kept thinking our dispute was that we already paid.
She get her friends to write stat-decs saying she had full care of the children! She wasn't even in the same State as them! We lodged so much evidence we had them, receipts, photos, stat-decs' from their grandparents, flights when we took them on holidays and finally CSA said they would look into it, but we keep getting bills!
Its so unfair, we paid for all their expenses and had them 100% of the time for 6 months and they say we need to pay her! We are broke from looking after the kids without her support, but where trying to keep it civil for their sake.
CSA is so difficult to deal with and this is so unfair. They keep telling us to pay it, but she hardly ever sees her kids. We pay twice and the kids miss out :( We dont mind paying child support to look after them, but it is ridiculous when she doesnt even have care of them.
My partner has two children to his ex. We have had non-stop issues from child support as last financial year. He was earning a very good salary working on the mines (he was still married then.)He has contacted child support numerous times to get the earnings changed. No such luck. He ended up with a debt which we had nearly paid off. In December he lost his job and went onto NewStart. He is now working again. He Contacted child Support to provided them with his new yearly earnings. Unfortunately the representative did not listen to a word he said and put in that in the last six months he has earned $129000. He is only earning $70000 Gross a year. Child support contacted his ex and said that he has been lying to her and that he is earning this huge amount of money and they are going to get it back ASAP. His Ex contacted him and asked if this was true? Obviously no. Anyway back to child support he went to get it changed. Yesterday we were contacted and because of this mistake he now owes over $6500 in debt. Because they can not back date it we have to pay this obscene money. We don't have that sort of money and I do not understand why we have to pay for someones mistake. Has this happened to anyone else and does anyone know how to get it changed? Is there a way or is it that once they put their figures in that is that?